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My Message for Women Caught Up in the Abortion Lie

By: Lisa Robertson

Later this month, I will be speaking at the March for Life event in Washington, D.C. I am so sad to report that my only qualification for speaking at this event is that I aborted my unborn child when I was a very young woman. I’ve blogged about this before but let me just say this — it is a decision I deeply regret, even to this day.

Because I’ve carried the sorrow of having had an abortion for so long, I strongly oppose this horrible practice, and I’ll do whatever I can to make sure that this scourge is cast into the trash heap of very bad and very evil political ideas. But I’m no politician, thank God. Instead, I’m just a believer in Jesus Christ who has been redeemed by his sacrifice. Even though I was as guilty as I could be, he picked me and washed that filthy sin (along with many others) from my soul.

SPEAKING TRUTH AND GRACE TO THE BROKENHEARTED

So, while I will speak passionately about the evils of abortion, I am even more passionate about speaking truth into the hearts of two groups of women: those who are considering abortion as a way out of a tough situation and those who have already aborted their babies and are weighed down by guilt and shame. I want them to know that there really is an eternal and kind God who loves them and will always tell them the truth about the reality of abortion. I want them to know that he will lift their burden and wash away their shame.

The verse below is one that has soothed my broken heart many times over the years:

“This is a trustworthy saying, and everyone should accept it: “Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners”—and I am the worst of them all. But God had mercy on me so that Christ Jesus could use me as a prime example of his great patience with even the worst sinners. Then others will realize that they, too, can believe in him and receive eternal life.”

I would say that I have made a lot of mistakes in my life, but the truth is that I have really only made one. I’ve made it several times, but it’s always the same mistake. My mistake is that I have listened to my own voice rather than the voice of God. Over and over and over again, I have heard the quiet voice that urges me to turn away from my Father in heaven and do what I want to do.

IDENTIFY THE LIES AND THE LIAR WHO WHISPERS THEM IN OUR EAR

I say it’s my voice because it sounds like me, but in reality, it’s not my voice I hear whispering in my ear at all — it belongs to someone else. It’s the voice of Satan the EVIL ONE that I hear. It’s never a roar because he never reveals himself. If he appeared in person and identified himself, I would immediately reject him. Instead, he speaks in thoughts and feelings, always disguising himself as Lisa.

Many years ago, I heard his voice, and by listening to him, my life was permanently altered. He spoke through family members and the doctors and nurses at the abortion clinic. And when he spoke, he told me exactly what I wanted to hear. He convinced me that I could avoid the consequences of my sexual sin by removing the “glob of tissue” that was in my young womb. Using the voices of the people I trusted the most, he persuaded me that I would never think about it again.

But he lied! They all lied! I lied to myself, for that matter! And instead of never thinking about it again, not a day goes by that I don’t grieve the loss of my precious unborn baby who never had the opportunity to take his first breath. Not one single day.

GOD IS PATIENT! HE IS FRIENDLY TO SINNERS WHO TURN TO HIM!

Living with that kind of guilt can be overwhelming. And it was overwhelming for me for a long time. But here’s where my story gets interesting. Years after aborting my unborn child, after years of silently carrying the unbearable guilt of what I had done and believing lie after lie that I could find redemption in sin, I ran smack dab into the God who created the universe. All that pain and guilt. All that sorrow. God kept on letting me experience it until I was ready to be slapped in the face by his mercy.

As the passage above says, God had mercy on young Lisa. He had mercy on me “so that Christ Jesus could use me as a prime example of his great patience with even the worst sinners.” And when he had mercy on me and pardoned me for the unpardonable sin of aborting my baby, he used me for good. He put a message on my heart and commissioned me to share it with other women caught up in the abortion lie — the God who pardoned me will pardon you too. 

I know the temptation to address the issue of abortion by winning the argument and pronouncing judgment on women who have had one. But winning the argument doesn’t wash away the feelings of guilt and shame that women experience after they have aborted their child. In fact, it usually fans into flame the guilt we already feel. When we point our fingers at the guilty and proclaim the obvious, “You are guilty! You are shameful!” we aren’t helping women see the patient and loving nature of God. No lives are changed when we do that.

The sad truth is that women who’ve aborted their children often know full well that they have done something that is unspeakably horrible. We know that we have committed a heinous sin. Like me, millions of women are living with the unbearable shame of what we have done.

So, when I speak about abortion, I always tell the same story: Abortion is a horrible attack on the sanctity of life.  Rather than providing a solution to what is wrong in our lives, it only complicates things for us. And if you have aborted your unborn child, let me tell you about our Heavenly Father who delights in freely and abundantly pouring out his grace and mercy on women like you and me.

In other words, instead of winning the argument, I want to speak the truth of God into broken hearts — the truth that tears down the argument that we are doomed to live in quivering fear of God because of what we’ve done. I want to tell about the God who isn’t as concerned with winning the argument as he is with winning the woman. And that is what God wants, according the passage above. He wants to win you — a sinner who feels as if she is the worst sinner in the world because she aborted her unborn child.

So, as Sanctity of Life Sunday and The March for Life approach, I want all women who feel the shame of abortion to hear me loud and clear: God loves you, and he wants to hold you in his arms and brush away your guilt and shame! I also want women who are pregnant and are hearing Satan’s voice telling them that their only solution is to abort their child to understand that he is a liar. He never has your best interest at heart, but God does. And he places the highest premium on life. You and your unborn child are the objects of his affection. So, choose life! You won’t regret it!

4 Comments
  • Sherry Copeland
    January 19, 2022at10:41 am

    Truth Lisa, I’ve only just recently read your and Al’s book (actually listened on audio). I watched a few seasons of Duck Dynasty, read Jase’s Book years ago- then started listening to a few Unashamed podcasts. Al really quickly became my favorite. As I have had a tumultuous 45 year marriage, Holy Spirit led me to listen to your story. I can’t thank you and Al enough for your honesty, wisdom, understanding and example of true forgiveness. Thankfully I’ve never had an abortion, although several relatives tried to talk me into aborting my son, then daughter. They are 48 and 44 now. However, I have the guilt of sending my best friend the money to abort her child and paying for an airplane ticket for another person to go to have an abortion. Those two unwise decisions on my part have haunted me for years. I have repented and confessed these sins, and like you stated above- I’m forgiven by His great mercy.

  • Lisa Robertson
    January 19, 2022at6:51 pm

    Thank you, Sherry, for your encouragement. It means a lot.

  • Michael Baccala
    January 24, 2022at7:08 am

    Lisa, You and Al visited us at the OC Tabernacle last summer in Ocean City, NJ. We had a wonderful time with you that weekend. What an amazing couple walking in the light of God you are. We loved the genuine and heartfelt truth you both shared about marriage and relationships. This blog post is much of the same caring and genuine truth you both share with others. Thank you both for your faith and love of Christ and each other. Thank you for sharing that with the rest of us.

    • Lisa
      January 25, 2022at8:58 am

      Michael, thank you so much for your encouragement. Al and I are blessed beyond measure every time we get to travel and share the message of the Gospel. God bless!

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