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The Brevity of Life: Making the Most Important Things a Priority

by: Gordon Dasher

The good thing about being a crusty old man is that I get to play the wise old sage. I’m not the sharpest knife in the drawer, but at almost 68 years old, I’m like the professor on the Farmers Insurance commercials — I know a thing or two because I’ve seen a thing or two.

So when I sat for coffee last week with a much younger man (almost everyone is much younger than I am now), I put on my best old sage face and said, “Let me tell you something you need to know — I know a thing or two because I’ve seen a thing or two. You’ll turn around one day, and those little kids will be grown and gone, and you’ll wonder where the time went. Trust me, you won’t regret a single hour that you spent with them teaching them about what’s important in life.

Boy, do I know how true this is.

My friends Robert and Cathy told me last night that they found an old photograph of Jan and me from when we were first married. Never ones to miss getting a dig in at me, they said, “You sure were young then. Where did the time go?” As if to say, “Dude, you are a disgusting old man — a shell of your former self.” Maybe that’s not what they meant, but that’s the way I took it, and I reminded them that they are both a year older than I am. But that didn’t mean that they weren’t telling the truth.

One day Jan and I were at the altar, and the next I was at her funeral, and the time between the two events seems like a blur. One day, I was in the delivery room watching her give birth to our kids, and the next my granddaughter is almost a grown woman.

WOW! It was brief.

But here’s where the difference lies between someone whose hope is in Jesus and someone whose hope is in the things of the world — I am not discouraged by it, nor am I hopeless. And that’s the truth. Sure, there are things I wish I had the opportunity to do over, but ever since I was a young man and from the point at which I finally gave my life over to Christ’s care and control, I’ve been on a journey with my Father in heaven.

I finally realize that God never promised me that I would become perfect in this life, but what he did promise is that this journey he had me on was lifelong and involved him chipping away at myself so that he could mold me into the image of his son. It is every day — a little less of me and more of him.

And one of the amazing benefits of walking with God is that he gave me a sense of urgency about the life he has given me and the things he has tasked me with stewarding. In the world, I had a sense of urgency too, but it was the fear that opportunities to make money, to make a career for myself might pass me by. In place of that, God instilled in me the urgency to invest in my family and in others who didn’t know God but desperately needed him — even if they didn’t know at the time that they did.

Lest you be tempted to think that time has passed you by, let me assure you of one thing: It’s not too late to ask God to sort out your priorities and lead you to make amazing investments in eternal things — to seek eternal treasures that moth and rust cannot destroy. Even at my age, I’ve renewed my commitment to speak grace and truth into the hearts and minds of people less than half or even a quarter of my age. I’m not worried about immediate results; one thing I’ve learned is that it may take years for our words to come to fruition in a burst of faith in God. If God can be patient, so can I. Besides, it’s God who is responsible for the results, not me!

Yes, life is brief, and so are the opportunities to make eternal investments. Like all of us, you may feel that you’ve wasted a great deal of time, but that’s just the Evil One telling you that you’re too far gone to turn back now.

Don’t listen to him. Listen to the one who loves you and died for you. He’ll take you farther than you ever imagined that you could go.

Father, we implore you to pour your grace and mercy out on us in abundance. Especially, we plead with you to let us see the brief number of our days and to infuse in us a sense of urgency about the things that really matter. Convict us of the fact that opportunities to impact those we love the most with the Gospel of Jesus Christ may not last forever.

Photo by Marnee Wohlfert on Unsplash

  • Suzonne Dail
    June 21, 2020at8:39 pm

    Please pray for my grandson Corte he is a drug addict. Breaks our hearts Hes only 18.

    • Gordon Dasher
      June 21, 2020at8:52 pm

      I am so sorry to hear this. I’ll pray for him for sure.

    • Barb Barber
      June 21, 2020at9:21 pm


    • Rhonda Turner
      June 22, 2020at1:51 am

      Prayers for your whole family!

    • Carol Freeman
      June 22, 2020at4:39 pm

      I will pray for Corte!♥️

  • Geoff Mosher
    June 21, 2020at11:34 pm

    Thank you sir for your wise words.

    Today is both amazingly sweet but also just a little sad for me. I’m truly blessed at 37 to be able to celebrate my first Father’s Day as a dad myself with my wonderful wife Jessica and my beautiful, perfect miracle (and I mean that in every sense of the word) daughter Annalisse. But it is also the first Father’s Day I am spending without my own father; we lost him to suicide last February.

    Both events have instilled a combination of emotions that do not seem to get along very well. On one hand, I must take on the mantle of head of the household, having taken over the care of the family estate and of my mother as well as my own small blessed family, and I feel compelled to do more to earn more. On the other hand I feel now more than ever that time is short and I know I will never get back this precious time I could be spending with my wife and seven-month-old little girl. I truly feel like there are two different men at war inside one person at times with irreconcilable differences.

    In the midst of navigating the storms of life it is easy to lose track of the things that matter. In this I must say thank you for helping clear just a little of the fog. Material, worldly possessions are valueless when compared to the treasures our Father has stored for us in Heaven, and time IS short. I cannot waste the time He has given me on this earth.

    You’ve given me a window into the future based on your own life experiences, which is amazing. Thanks to your insight, I might not have to look back in 30 years and wish I had done things a little different; wish I had spent just one more hour with my baby, read her one more story, held her just a little longer that night. It would be too long of a story, but our daughter truly is a a miracle sent from God, a Christmas Angel given to our care just for a little while and an answer to years of prayer. As a father and as a man striving to be just a little more like Christ, hearing your wisdom might have been exactly what I needed today.

    Thank you yet again, God bless you, and have a happy Father’s Day.

    And please tel Phil thank you for pointing me in your direction.

    • Gordon Dasher
      June 23, 2020at6:30 am

      Thank you for sharing your heart with us, Geoff

  • Lisa Tod
    June 21, 2020at11:59 pm

    I will pray for your grandson, Corte. From a mom whose 14 year old ran away 7 times & was on drugs for 10 years, in & out of crack houses in L.A., believe me when I tell you, God answers prayer. We don’t always know His plans or purpose but we can trust Him with our loved ones.

  • Jeff Statham
    June 22, 2020at12:43 pm

    This helps me more than I can say, thank you for sharing.

    • Gordon Dasher
      June 23, 2020at6:31 am

      Thank you, Jeff

  • Jackie Minniti
    June 22, 2020at12:52 pm

    Thank you, Gordon, for that beautiful, inspiring testimony. Sometimes we need a gentle reminder of how quickly time passes. And the older I get, the faster it seems to go. Your words were just what I needed to hear. May God bless you and yours.

    • Gordon Dasher
      June 23, 2020at6:32 am

      Jackie, we thank you for letting us know that this blog is helping folks

  • Carol Freeman
    June 22, 2020at4:40 pm

    I will pray for Corte!♥️

  • Teresa Hiward
    June 22, 2020at8:42 pm

    Thank you Gordon, I love reading your blogs. I really miss Jan, but I know our lives are just a vapor and then we will be in heaven!

  • Kristie Nicoll
    June 22, 2020at9:46 pm

    Beautiful and touching. Light and hope. Thank you.

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