Why I Speak Out About the Pain of Abortion
by: Lisa Robertson
There are few topics more divisive than abortion. And there are few topics of conversation that cause me more pain than abortion. It’s personal — VERY personal.
You see, I am a victim of abortion. I say victim because the promise made to me when I found myself in the unenviable position of being pregnant at the tender age of sixteen was that it was just tissue inside of my womb, and removing the “tissue” would allow me to go on with my life. I recall the nurse at the abortion clinic telling me, “After today, you’ll never have to think about it again.”
I’ll let you in on a little secret — decades after removing the “tissue,” not a day goes by that I don’t think about the child that I allowed to be “removed” by my abortion doctor. Not a single day. And let me tell you something else — in the community of women that I’ve come to be a part of since coming out about my abortion, I am not alone. The women that I know — the ones who are not statistics but real women — the single biggest regret that most of us share is that we aborted our babies.
The guilt and shame of having aborted my unborn child plagued me for years. I’m still not proud of what I did. In my defense, if I can call it a defense, I was very young and naïve. What did I know? Still, it haunted me — a fact that I kept hidden for years. The shame grew until it overwhelmed me.
Other women react to their abortions differently. They respond with anger and resentment toward anyone who stands opposed to the practice of abortion. Often these women are victims of men who objectified them and then discarded them to “handle” the situation on their own. They’ve already been controlled and dominated enough. The last thing they need is for someone to get up in their faces and heap more shame on them.
My appeal is not one of shame and guilt but one of redemption and freedom from shame. While I’m still not proud of what I did, and while I’m convinced that aborting my unborn child was the single worst decision I could have made under the circumstances, I am free of the guilt and shame that once plagued me because Christ died to set me free from it. That’s the message that changes hearts and lives.
We want to make you aware of two opportunities to hear my abortion story. First of all, you can read the interview we did with Focus on the Family: Desperate Forgiveness for a Past Abortion. Secondly, you can watch the live interview below.
Rest assured, I do not like talking about my abortion. It’s one of the darkest days in my life — perhaps the darkest of all. But my goal is to embolden other women to have the courage to search for other paths. I fully understand that the “other paths” may appear to be more difficult in the midst of crisis, but I personally know that the path of aborting an unborn child is the most difficult of all.
If you’ve experienced an abortion and still struggle with the pain, please leave a comment below — we are all in this together. I love you all, and I want you to know that God loves you too.